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A lot of people allow the inequities and hurts of life to become their defining moments. They make a cognitive choice not to forgive. In short, they assign negative emotions to what happened and anger rules their lives. Remember, anger is a choice.
Obviously, Joseph remembered his brothers' harsh treatment years prior; however, he chose not to rehearse the details and to lay aside the emotional residue of his offense. In that respect, he was able to forgive and forget! When we place such matters in God's hand, it is possible to forgive those who sin against us. Forgiveness causes our memories to fade and our souls to heal. In a very real sense, we do forget. God heals our soul as we release our pain to Him in prayer. The Spirit of God heals both our mind and emotions.
How do we know when we've truly forgiven someone? When the offense comes to mind, if indeed it does, and it no longer hurts. The sting is gone! Prayer is therapeutic, and as we release those who hurt us, the Holy Spirit gives us a new interpretation of the situation and eliminates the pain. Remember, Joseph had thirteen years to process his pain! You can bet that his initial decision to forgive still held pain! Eventually, total forgiveness erases any negative memories and anger dissipates. Our Pentecostal forefathers called this "praying through." This is just one of the beautiful and practical aspects of sanctification.
Now let's turn to a more theological discussion. To fully experience they dynamics of forgiveness and forgetting, we need to understand the act of justification. Justification is God's judicial act of declaring believing sinners to be righteous and acceptable in His sight. It is a legal term. Justification is possible because Christ has borne the sinner's sin on the cross, and "has been made unto him righteousness" (1 Corinthians 1:30). Romans 3:24 says, "Being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus." Justification springs from the fountain of God's grace. "But when the kindness of God our Savior and His love for mankind appeared, He saved us, not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit" (Titus 3:4-5).
It is operative as the result of the redemptive and propitiatory sacrifice of Christ, Who has settled all the claims of the Law. Justification is on the basis of faith and not by human merit or works. In this marvelous operation of God, the Holy Judge of the universe judicially declares righteous the one who believes in Jesus. Romans 8:31-34 says, "What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who is against us? He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all. How will He not also with Him freely give us all things? Who will bring a charge against God's elect? God is the one who justifies; who is the one who condemns? Christ Jesus is He who died, yes, rather who was raised, who is at the right hand of God, who also intercedes for us."
A justified believer emerges from God's great court room with a consciousness that Another, his Substitute, has borne his guilt, and that he stands without accusation before the bar of God. The believer is justified in Christ and "there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus" (Romans 8:1).
So, if God for Christ's sake forgives us, we can forgive others. And if God looks upon us "just as if we never sinned," then we can look upon those who sin against us in the same manner. It's all by His grace and empowerment. The prophet Micah was outspoken and fearless in denouncing the iniquities of Judah. However, he ended his prophecy with these wonderful words: "Who is a God like You, who pardons iniquity and passes over the rebellious acts of the remnant of His possession? He does not retain His anger forever, because He delights in His unchanging love He will again have compassion on us; He will tread our iniquities under foot. Yes, You will cast all their sins into the depths of the sea" (7:18-19). Even God's anger does not keep score. He casts all confessed and repented of sin into His "sea of forgetfulness" to be remembered against us no more.
Yes, I definitely believe that in the biblical sense we can forgive and forget, with the Holy Spirit being our helper and strength!
