So Who Did Adam and Eve's Kids Marry?

I received this question:

Leviticus 18:9 says, "You shall not have intercourse with or uncover the nakedness of your sister..."  With this being the case, how did Adam and Eve's children propagate the race without having intercourse with their siblings?"

Good question and one that deserves an answer!  Please keep in mind, however, the Scriptures do not directly address a lot of issues in terms of "chapter and verse."  We have to pull from many sources to answer some questions; and some inquiries, to be totally honest, will not be answered on this side of eternity!

Here goes!  Some have tried to "excuse" God by teaching that He probably created other human beings right after He created Adam and Eve.  We read in 1 Corinthians 15:45 that Adam was "the first man."  God did not start by making a whole group of people--men and women.  Defenders of the gospel must believe that all human beings are descendants of one man and one woman (Adam and Eve), as only those people who are descendants of Adam and Eve can be saved.  Romans 5:12 tells us that "even through one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin, and so death passed on all men inasmuch as all sinned."

The Bible makes it clear that only the descendants of Adam can be saved.  Romans 5 teaches that we sin because Adam sinned.  Since Adam was the head of the human race when he "fell," we who were in the loins of Adam "fell" also.  If God created other human beings in addition to Adam and Eve, then the gospel message is rendered false.  So please don't buy into this convenient, less substantiated argument.

Let's face it.  If we work totally from Scripture, without attaching our personal prejudices or other extra-biblical ideas, then we have to accept the fact that back at the very beginning, where there was only one generation, brothers would have had to marry sisters or there would be no more generations!  The Bible does not tell us how many children were born to Adam and Eve.  However, considering their long lifespans (Adam lived 930 years), it seems reasonable that there were many.  Famed Jewish historian Josephus wrote that "The number of Adam's children, as says the old tradition, was 33 sons and 23 daughters."

Remember, too, that sibling ages could be separated by hundreds of years!  To fully understand this concept, we have to quit thinking like traditional "Ozzie and Harriett" Americans.  We are not told when Cain married or any of the details of other marriages and children, but we can say with some degree of certainty that some brothers had to marry their sisters at the beginning of human history.  News flash   I realize I'm challenging religious mindsets; however, God continued to do "strange things" throughout redemptive history.  Do the names Hosea (prophet) and Gomer (prostitute) ring a bell?

Most people immediately reject the conclusion that Adam and Eve's sons and daughters married each other by appealing to the verse you quoted in Leviticus 18.  Some say you cannot marry your relation.  But if this first generation of humankind did not marry their relations, they could not marry a human!  Understand something.  The law forbidding marriage between close relatives was not given until the time of Moses.  Remember that Abraham married his half-sister (Genesis 20:12).  God blessed this union to produce the Hebrew people through Isaac and Jacob.  It was not until some 400 years later that God gave Moses laws that forbade such marriages.

Today, brothers and sisters are not permitted by law to marry because their children have a reasonably high risk of being deformed.  Besides, that would be gross anyway!  Just as the human lifespan shortened as sin continued to ravage mankind, so the human gene pool surely degenerated.  Adam and Eve possessed no genetic mistakes.  They were created physically perfect.  Everything God made was "very good" (Genesis 1:31).  Their genes were perfect--no mistakes.  But when sin entered ht world, God's perfect creation began to generationally degenerate.  Cain was in the first generation of children ever born.  He, as well as his brothers and sisters, would have received virtually no imperfect genes from Adam and Eve, so their offspring would have been genetically sound.  Sadly, sin began to work its destructive force against the beauty of God's creation, and by the time of Moses, degenerative mistakes would have built up in the human race to such an extent that it became necessary for God to forbid brother-sister marriages.  Also, there were plenty of people on the earth by then, and there would have been no reason for close relations to marry.

I believe this argument is plausible.  Regardless, the Bible is still God's Word and God's ways are perfect.  I still say we underestimate the toll that sin has taken on humankind and this planet.  This venue does not allow me to go into more detail, but I'm thankful for the information provided by www.bibleexplorer.com.  I drew heavily from their research.  If your curiosity has peaked, log on to that site and type in "Where did Cain get his wife?" Questions like yours make me appreciate the integrity of the Scriptures even more!

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Does the Holy Spirit convict a person of "sin" or of "righteousness?"

Let's go to Jesus' discourse in John 16:7-11 to answer this question.  "Nevertheless I tell you the truth.  It is to your advantage that I go away; for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you; but if I depart, I will send Him to you.  And when He has come, He will convict the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment:  Of sin, because they do not believe in Me.  Of righteousness, because I go to My Father and you see Me no more; Of judgment because the ruler of this world is judged."

According to this passage, the three important tasks of the Holy Spirit are:

1. Convincing the world of its sin and calling it to repentance,
2. Showing the standard of God's righteousness to anyone who believes because Jesus would no longer be present on earth, and
3. Demonstrating Christ's judgment over Satan.

A good word to use instead of "convict" is "convince."  To summarize these verses we can accurately say, "When we confess our sin, God declares us righteous and delivers us from judgment for our sins."  To further lend understanding, let's look at it this way.

1. The Holy Spirit initially draws us to Christ by convincing us we are sinners who need salvation.  I was drawn to Christ when I was convicted of my sinful condition before God, and was wonderfully converted at the age of 14.
2. THEN, the same Holy Spirit Who convicted e about my sins, put upon me the righteousness of Jesus!  Now the Spirit convicts (convinces) me continually; He reminds me when I sin and when I don't sin that I AM HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS.

To answer this question, the Holy Spirit, in the initial experience of conversion, convicts us of sin.  He then immediately places upon us Jesus' robe of righteousness.  Subsequently, we no longer are what sin says we are, but who God says we are.  The Spirit works continually to convince us of our righteous standing.  In other words, sin no longer has dominion over us, but now we walk in His righteousness.  At salvation we are cleansed by the blood.  Afterwards, we must see ourselves as saved, washed, cleansed, delivered, healed, etc.; and that's what the Holy Spirit works to convince us of.

Do you know what I often hear from already saved people?  They say things like, "I'm bad," "I'm not worth anything," "I don't deserve God's goodness," or "I'm bound by (whatever)..." Usually, these people admit they've been saved, but they experience difficulty walking in the righteousness of Christ.  So, the Holy Spirit works tirelessly to show them (convince them) of God's better way.  Before we receive salvation, we can rightfully say, "I am a sinner."  The Holy Spirit then convinces us of our need for salvation.  Afterwards, however, we should learn to say, "I'm righteousness "  Not perfect--but righteousness!   Many believers continue to sow into their already forgiven sins after they come to Christ!  Their walk is characterized by shame, unhealthy guilt, condemnation and fear.  They live in a perpetual state of unfounded rejection.

When we receive and understand this revelation, the same Holy Spirit who initially exposed our sinful condition, now teaches us how to live soberly, righteously and godly in this present world" (Titus 2:17).  The Spirit is a teacher, Who works continuously to convince us of the dynamics of the imputed righteousness of Christ which was placed upon us at conversion.

To summarize, the Holy Spirit both convicts of sin and righteousness!  Hallelujah!

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Should Christians preach against Santa Claus?

I received this question:

"Our former pastor and church absolutely forbid us to acknowledge Santa Claus.  As a matter of fact, he openly preached against Santa.  What are your feelings?"

I had hoped the church (body of Christ) had pressed past such things, but I guess not.  I will answer your question, not meaning any disrespect toward your former pastor.  This is me speaking, okay?

Santa Claus was always part of our Christmas celebrations during my boyhood.  As a matter of fact, I must say the Ole' Boy was quite good to me then, and continues to delight my holidays!  I choose not to engage in the Santa Claus debate.  Frankly, I think it's a mute point.  Believe me, there are far more important matters to preach about.  I'm just real sure God is not sitting on His universal throne, wringing His hands over whether or not you and I embrace Santa Claus!

Sadly, some pastors put their personal convictions on to their congregations and preach them as doctrine.  Jesus warned us about such matters.  Obviously, the Bible does not address the matter of Santa Claus, so that automatically places his involvement in your life in the "non-essential, it-doesn't-matter" category.  If Santa Claus is an unnecessary fabrication in your mind, then don't place his picture on your front door.  If your Christmas would not be the same without the legendary, jolly fat man, then remember to leave him refreshments close to your Christmas tree on Christmas Eve!

In our home, our four kids wrote Santa detailed letters, listing their Christmas "wants."  We then mailed those letters to Lori's dad, and he called the kids on the telephone, talking in his deep "Ho-ho-ho" voice, so as to disguise himself   Our kids got the biggest charge out of this annual gig!  That is, of course, until they were old enough to recognize Papa's voice.  At that point Santa became a fond memory.

You see, there are what I call "essentials" in the Christian life, and there are "non-essentials."  The virgin birth is an example of a non-negotiable essential.  Santa Claus definitely fits in the "non-essential, it-doesn't matter" category.  Naturally, we taught our children the true meaning of Christmas as soon as they were old enough to understand.  As a matter of fact, one of our household traditions was the reading of the Christmas story recorded in Luke 2 before the kids opened their gifts.

I just don't get hung up over such matters.  Who cares?  Santa Claus and Christmas trees are neither evil nor good.  They are neutral expressions of holiday tradition.  And God doesn't care either way!  Remember, you asked!

I can't close without telling this true, delightful story.  Dr. and Mrs. Harry Yates sang and spoke one year during our senior adults Christmas dinner.  Harry, being the prankster that he is, walked into the room wearing a Santa hat.  One of our precious saints, however, did not appreciate Harry's red fur-lined cap.  He said to Pastor Yates, "I don't appreciate you wearing a Santa cap in the church."

I'll never forget what happened next.  Harry looked at the dear man and replied, "What?  You mean after all I've done for your family?  After all those years of climbing down your chimney, risking life and limb to deliver Christmas gifts to your children, and this is the thanks I get?"  The man's countenance changed dramatically.  He was totally bewildered and speechless!  He walked away in a fog!

If Santa Claus is part of your Christmas celebration--fine.  If not, that's fine, too.  Just don't tell the rest of us who enjoy the spirit of giving that because he misrepresents the real meaning of Christmas, we are wrong to acknowledge him.  Leave such matters in the hands of individual believers.

Finally, allow me to end with an easily recognized quote:  "Ho-ho-ho, Merry Christmas!"

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I have to work out my own salvation with fear and trembling? Huh?

What did it mean when Paul told the believers at Philippi to work out their own salvation with fear and trembling?

First, let me tell what this verse is NOT saying!  In no way is Paul suggesting that salvation is obtained by works.  We adamantly believe that we are saved by grace through faith.  Paul emphatically maintains in Romans 3:28 and many other places in the New Testament "that a man is justified by faith apart from works of the law..."

Like any other verse, we need to look at the text immediately before and after it to correctly ascertain its true meaning.  This somewhat suspicious verse is quite readily explained when we look at it within its proper context.

Here's what Paul says in Philippians 2:12, "So then, my beloved, just as you always have obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your salvation with fear and trembling."

In verses 1-11 Paul encourages these believers to be of the same mind, maintain the same love, be united in spirit and intent on one purpose.  He admonishes them to look out for another's interests, to serve one another and to give themselves to each other in love and humility.  Paul uses Jesus' supreme example of humbling Himself even to the point of death.  Jesus was God and yet He took on the form of a bond servant, was obedient to the Father's plan AND God exalted Him!

Given this backdrop, Paul commends the Philippian believers for always obeying the Lord while he was in their presence.  THEN HE SAYS, "...but now much more in my absence, work out your salvation with fear and trembling."  In other words, Christians should learn to take the initiative when it comes to daily obedience and living for Christ.

One sign of personal spiritual maturity is when a believer does not have to rely on other Christian workers to remain steady in his resolve to serve God.  God wants us to rely on Him and to "work out" our own salvation, instead of depending on our Christian leaders to do it for us!  In essence, what Paul was saying was, "I don't have to be there for you to 'work out your salvation.'"  When I pastored in the South, we referred to folks who just had to have the preacher's input all the time as having "preacher religion."

Encouragers are always welcome, of course, but God wants us to get to the place where we keep "walking" when there's no one to push us along.  Paul reminded the Philippian believers that "it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure."  In verse 15 he writes, "...so that you will prove yourselves to be blameless and innocent, children of God above reproach..."  Saints, we don't get to heaven holding on to other believers.  We will arrive safely holding on to Jesus!  So, work out your own salvation, whether you have pastors and other mature believers around you or not.  Remember, "our personal toil is not in vain" (verse 16).

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What Should I Do About My Out-of-Control Kids?

Believe it or not, children not only need boundaries, but they actually respect them.  David said it well in Psalm 51:5, "In sin did my mother conceive me..."  Those cute little bundles of joy soon grow into older children who need to be trained and guided.  We see the sin nature begin to manifest early on!  Children must be taught to understand and obey righteous and reasonable boundaries from a very young age.  If parents don't establish proper boundaries, the children will establish their own, and the end results will produce out-of-control children.

Forget about those humanistic teachers who say that boundaries destroy the child's potential and creative flow.  If you let your child talk back to you and disrespect you at 3 years of age, you may very well be visiting him or her in jail at 23!  Once you give a child boundaries and enforce the consequences of breaking those boundaries, carry through with your "promise."  Don't say, "I'm going to only tell you one more time" (for the fifth time!).  Children need consistency!  Also parents, never allow your children to pit you against one another.  After you come to a mutual decision, support one another.  Your child will soon learn that he cannot manipulate you.

God gives us children and trusts us to help shape their character and behavior and most important, lead them to the Savior.  We do this through instruction, lots of love and godly discipline.  We must be careful not to break their spirit, but we must break their will.  Remember too, there's a difference between disciplining and shaming a child.  Don't say, "You're no good."  Instead say, "Your behavior is not acceptable."  Obedience is learned, and some obedience is learned through suffering.  It worked that way with Jesus.  "Though He was a Son, yet He learned obedience by the things which He suffered" (Hebrews 5:8).

Remember, parents can't wait until their children are 10-12 years old to begin this process.  Training begins during infancy.  All four of my children were taught boundaries from the time they learned to crawl.  We never moved our household trinkets up higher to avoid breakage.  The children received a smack on their hands if they touched them.  If I said, "No, no," that's what I meant, and when they defied the order, they paid the consequences.

Did we spank?  Yes we did!  Reasonably and on their back side!  Pain is a teacher!  Controlled and intentional spanking not driven by anger does not constitute abuse.  It is perhaps unwise to exercise spanking in public, so "minister" to your child in a private place!  Again, humanistic mindsets have many parents afraid to touch their children, so unfortunately many children are growing up without boundaries.  Many children today control their homes and sadly their school classrooms because of this unscriptural practice.  Sometimes I wonder, "Who's the parent and who's the child?"  Reasonable boundaries, an understanding of and love for authority, and the teaching of respect and godliness need to be re-introduced to our children.

Telling parents to "Shut up," rolling of the eyes, the raising of voices, and blatant disobedience all constitute disrespect and eventually produce rebellious kids.  I'm not recommending abuse, of course, but I do recommend that parents start training their children during their formative years.  Don't work to be their friend; be their parent!

Does the Bible Speak Against Gambling?

We will not find the word gambling in the Bible.  However, like so many other issues in life, the Bible does contain timeless principles that apply.  We cannot assume that an activity is right or wrong simply because it is not mentioned.

Some try to support gambling by comparing it to the "casting of lots," which we read about in both the Old and New Testaments.  Although casting of lots was common among many ancient cultures, usually this method was employed when people had to make a decision; and in most instances, casting lots was simply a way of determining something impartially.  We remember that Roman soldiers cast lots for Jesus' garments at His crucifixion.

Now to today.  While casinos and lotteries promise thrills and excitement, people gamble to try to win money.  However, the Scriptures give very specific instructions about what our attitude should be toward money.  "Whoever loves money never has money enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with his income.  This too is meaningless" (Ecclesiastes 5:10).  Jesus said, "No man can serve two masters.  Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other.  You cannot serve both God and money" (Luke 16:13).  Paul reminds us, "For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil.  Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs" (1 Timothy 6:10).

In one sense, gambling is a way to bypass work, but the Bible counsels us to persevere and work hard.  Proverbs 10:4 says, "Lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hands bring wealth."

Another key principle in the Bible is that people should be wise stewards of everything God gives them.  Those who gamble may believe they earn their money with their own labor and may spend it as they please.  Yet, God gives us talent and health to carry out our jobs.  Wise stewardship of any extra monies calls believers to invest it, give it into the work of the Lord, or to save it for emergencies, rather than lose it in games in which the odds are stacked against the player.  Sometimes people who gamble use monies that should rightfully go toward their family's needs.

Gambling also promotes covetous attitudes.  The Scriptures speak directly to this possibility.  Exodus 20:17 says, "You shall not covet your neighbor's house.  You shall not coven your neighbor's wife, or his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor."  Sadly, gamblers many times covet the things money can buy, such as cars, boats, houses, expensive jewelry and clothing.  Gambling also has the potential to turn into an addiction, like drugs or alcohol.  According to the National Council on Problem Gambling, two-million American adults are pathological gamblers and another 4 to 6 million are problem gamblers.  Such addictions destroy family stability, lead to job loss and cause a person to lose control of his life.  2 Peter 2:19 says, "...for a man is a slave to whatever has mastered him."

Finally, gambling provides a sense of false hope.  Participants place their hope in winning, often against astronomical odds, instead of placing their hope in God.  The Bible clearly supports the idea that our hope is in God alone, not money, power or position.

My husband wants to bring porn into our bedroom, saying it will spice up our sex life. What's your opinion?

My heart is heavy as I ponder this question.  Hopefully, this husband does not confess Christ as Savior and Lord.  I could partially understand and accept such a request from an unsaved person.

The first thought that comes to mind is "adultery."  Jesus tells us in Matthew 5:28, "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

God's holy and non-negotiable plan is that husbands and wives enjoy physical intimacy within the boundaries of monogamy.  It does not matter if your husband is referring to audio-visual porn or smut magazines; it's all the same--adultery.  When married men focus their attention and sexual energies outside their marriage partner, they commit adultery.

If I were this wife, I would feel totally violated.  Such a request constitutes a breach of trust.  Marriage is a covenant between a man and his wife, and God will judge those who practice such lifestyles (1 Corinthians 6:9).

This request has absolutely nothing to do with submission.  It is ungodly, unholy and UNACCEPTABLE!  The Law of Higher Principle guides this comment.  Consider Peter's words in Acts 5:27-29 when the disciples were asked to stop preaching the gospel in Jerusalem.

Peter's resolve illustrates the Law of Higher Principle:  "When they had brought them, they stood them before the Council.  The high priest questioned them, saying, 'We  gave you strict orders not to continue teaching in this name, and yet, you have filled Jerusalem with your teaching, and intend to bring this man's blood upon us.' But Peter and the apostles answered, 'We must obey God rather than men.'"

There are times when we have to override men's devices and do what's right in God's eyes.  Your husband has no right to ask you to violate your conscience before God.  He may become offended and even upset, but it doesn't matter.  Porn would, in this case, become "the other woman."

Frankly, I'm appalled at such a request.  What kind of husband, Christian or not, would ask such a despicable thing of his wife?  A wife needs to know that her husband has eyes and desire ONLY toward her.  I know I've come across rather harshly, but the very thought of such a request hurts my spirit.

I want to read God's Word daily, but I'm not sure how to go about reading so that I understand. Parts of it are boring, so where do I start?

First, let me say that this honesty tickles me.  The reason parts of the Bible may seem boring to you is because it reads like a catalog. I agree that genealogical listings don't make for easy devotional material!  Try reading 1 Chronicles 23-27 in one sitting!

However, always remember that the Holy Spirit had a specific, necessary reason to include every word (ever chapter) in the Bible.  After a while, you'll come to understand redemption's "bigger picture!"

But for now, let's deal with where you are, okay?  I'm not sure how long you've known the Lord, but let me suggest that you find a translation of the Bible that's easy to understand.  Some disagree with my recommendations, and that's perfectly alright.  Many times I tell new Christians to buy a Living Bible.  This is not a translation (scholarly work), but it may help you more clearly understand what the Bible's individual authors are trying to say.  Another popular version is the Message Bible.  This, too, puts the Bible in everyday, easy-to-understand language.

Possible easier-reading translations include the New Living Translation or perhaps the New American Standard version.  You may wish to stay away from the King James and New King James translations and the Amplified Bible until you have somewhat mastered the overall message of God's Word.

Continuity is also important when it comes to reading the bible.  Don't think in terms of how much you read each day.  Rather, establish a daily habit--same time, same place--and read slowly for the sake of understanding.  Jot down anything you don't understand or any questions you may have, and ask a more seasoned believer to help you.

I usually recommend that less seasoned believers begin their Bible reading adventure in the Gospels--Matthew, Mark, Luke and John.  These books are "snapshots" of the life of Jesus. You may also wish to begin reading the book of Psalms in the Old Testament.  Stay in the New Testament for awhile, as

1.  The details of the Law may weigh you down.
2.  The historical books quite often overlap.
3.  The wisdom literature gets emotionally heavy, and
4.  The Minor and Major Prophets can seem somewhat harsh.

Take your time!  Read slowly and deliberately.  It's better to read a few verses and understand them than it is to read a few chapters and feel overwhelmed.  And since I have this opportunity, let me encourage you to obtain a free copy of my workbook, Running Your Race.  This simple guide for new believers and those who wish a refresher course will aid you in your Bible reading.

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God bless you as you continue to read and study your Bible.  Find an accountability partner, and "little by little" share together the wonders of God's Word!

How Can I Know God's Will for My Life?

I remember wondering that very question when I was a teenage boy.  It seemed to me that finding God's will was such a mysterious, hard-to-understand issue--almost a shot in the dark!

David says in Psalm 48:8, "I delight to do Your will, O my God..."  Another often-quoted verse pertaining to the will of God is Romans 12:2, "And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your ind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect."

A lot of Christians talk about the perfect and permissible will of God, using this verse as a support.  However, I don't have time or space to elaborate on this teaching.  Another verse that comes to mind is found in 1 Thessalonians 4:3, "For this is the will of God, your sanctification..."  Paul specifically mentions sanctification as it relates to possessing our "vessel (body) in sanctification and honor."

From these passages and more, we discover that God does have a plan and purpose for our lives.  We also learn that above all, His will is that we allow the Holy Spirit to sanctify our lives--in these cases, our minds and bodies.

This subject cannot be adequately treated in this venue, but allow me to offer two principles that I have always operated by when it came to the specific will of God in my life:

1.  First, I believe the will of God is tied in to the gifts and desires that God places within each one of us.  In Psalm 37:4, David says to "Delight yourself in the Lord; And He will give you the desires of your heart."  God does not want us to simply exist.  He desires that we walk in "fullness of joy."  He will not require you to go through life unfulfilled.  He has placed within you special gifts and talents to use for His glory.

What do you like to do?  What incites passion in your life?  What motivates you toward excellence?  What do you often think about?  What desires and assignments has God placed within your spiritual DNA?  

God will sponsor what He initiates!

Ask Him to fine-tune your desires.  Remember, "Your steps are ordered" (Psalm 37:23).  God is not an Indian-giver.  What He deposits inside you, He wishes to use!  But please, try to avoid a "hocus-pocus, waving the magic wand" mentality when it comes to knowing the will of God for your life.  Don't make it so mystical or super-spiritual.  However, don't be surprised either if God uses another believer to confirm what He's already placed within your heart!

2.  Second, I believe the will of God is always accompanied by perfect peace.  "The steadfast of mind You will keep in perfect peace, because he trusts in You" (Isaiah 26:3) 
When making important decisions in life, I refuse to move ahead until I experience God's perfect peace regarding the matter at hand.

Recently my son, Zach and I went car shopping.  He found a car that he could both afford and one he really liked.  He talked to the dealer and made arrangements to sign the necessary papers the following day.  However, as the day wore on, he became more and more unsettled.  Neither did I have peace about the car.  When I shared my concerns with Zach, he proceeded to share his hesitations with me.  Later, circumstances proved us right, and we were both so glad we did not follow through with the purchase.  The peace of God saved the day (or in our case, a lack of peace).

The will of God is such a vast subject to discuss; however, I've touched upon two very critical principles, which I feel strongly factor into this subject.  I hope this abbreviated discussion helps you.

Someone Told Me That My Son Has a "Spirit of Laziness?"

Personally, I do not subscribe to the "spirit (demon) behind every bush" theology.  Many times we attach the word "spirit" to something, when in reality the problem is an attitude, a fleshly issue or a negative stronghold in our lives.

The Bible does indeed identify several "spirits."  Let me name a few:

spirit of heaviness (depression)--Isaiah 61:3

spirit of holiness--Romans 1:4

spirit of bondage--Romans 8:15

spirit of slumber (the result of hardened hearts)--Romans 11:8

spirit of meekness--1 Corinthians 4:21

spirit of faith--2 Corinthians 4:13

spirit of wisdom--Ephesians 1:17

spirit of fear--2 Timothy 1:7

spirit of truth and the spirit of error--1 John 4:6

Used in these contexts, the word "spirit" refers to an outside spiritual influence that attaches itself to the soul of a person--his mind, will and emotions.  These can be either positive or negative.  They are spiritual influences that "hold on" and which become strongholds.  A stronghold by definition is a system of thinking, attitudes, beliefs and expectations that develop over a period of time.  To summarize, a "spirit" involves an external force, while a stronghold builds from within a person.  One does, however, feed into the other.  Both attach themselves to the soul of a person.  Remember, the Christian life is played out on the battlefield of the mind.

Take a few minutes to read Proverbs 6:1-15.  The preacher talks about the lazy person, or the sluggard.  Let me single out verses 3-5.  "Do this then, my son, and deliver yourself; since you have come into the hand of your neighbor, go humble yourself, and importune your neighbor.  Give no sleep to your eyes, nor slumber to your eyelids; deliver yourself like a gazelle from the hunter's hand and like a bird from the hand of the fowler."

What is he saying?  Notice three very important phrases here: "deliver yourself," "humble yourself," and again "deliver yourself."  In other words, take responsibility for your actions and habits.  Years ago Chuck Swindoll wrote, "Sow a thought, reap an attitude.  Sow an attitude, reap a habit.  Sow a habit, reap a character.  Sow a character, reap a destiny."  We are responsible not for the thoughts that knock on our mind gate, but for what we do with those thoughts.

Laziness is a choice.  People choose to become lazy.  Some spirit named "LAZY" does not attach itself to your son, or anyone else for that matter.  He, through his own volition, makes a choice to be lazy.  He needs to be renewed in the "spirit of his mind" (Romans 12:2).  In other words, he needs to re-train his mind to be productive and to develop a strong work ethic.

Let's go back to Proverbs 6.  Verses 9-11 say, "How long will you lie down, O sluggard?  When will you arise from your sleep?  A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest--Your poverty will come in like a vagabond and your need like an armed man."

Laziness is a personal choice, not a spirit.  The Apostle Paul was rather hard on laziness when he told the believers in Thessalonica, "...if anyone is not willing to work, then he is not to eat, either.  For we hear that some among you are leading an undisciplined life, doing no work at all..." (2 Thessalonians 3:10-11).  In this case, laziness was not a spirit, but an attitude.  Freeloaders have been around a long time!

No, your son does not have a "spirit of laziness."  He just needs to re-think his position, change his attitude, make a character adjustment and get up off that couch!  In closing, sometimes it takes harsh circumstances to get through to some people.  Ask the prodigal son, who after spending his inheritance, found out that corn husks and pig pens are everything they're cracked up to be!

Don't waste your time praying against a "spirit of laziness."  Give him an ultimatum.  The preacher gave the sluggard an ultimatum in Proverbs 6, and you can, too!  Show him you love him by giving him a swift kick in the seat of his intentions!

How Do We Take the Lord's Name in Vain?

The most obvious way one takes His precious Name in vain is by using it through cursing.  When folks use the Name of God and Jesus Christ to express ungodly emotional outbursts, how this must grieve His heart.  God's last name is not "Damn," and Jesus Christ is so holy and precious; so when people use His Name in such an appalling manner, they curse the only Name that can save them!

A second way God's Name is used vainly is when people use His Name, but do not direct their thoughts and exclamations to His Person.  Let me explain.  Often we hear people say, "Oh my God!"  It's all to easy to get caught up in this misguided phrase.  Throughout the Psalms David and others continually use this phrase, but only when they address God Himself.  When employed in this manner, God receives praise, reverence and glory.  For example, In Psalm 63:1 we read, "Oh my God, You are my God, I shall seek You earnestly."  David is directing His thoughts to his God.

However, when we haphazardly use the phrase, "Oh my God" to voice our displeasure or surprise, our focus is not on God.  We take the awesomeness of His Name and misdirect it. We apply it irreverently.  When I was growing up, we were corrected for saying, "Gosh, Gee, or heck," for these expressions were thought to be substitutes for God, Jesus and hell.  Regardless of the validity of such thinking, it behooves us as believers to guard the use of questionable nouns!  So, if you use the phrase, "Oh my  God," make sure it's Him to whom you are speaking.

There's a third way we use God's Name in vain.  It's perhaps more subtle than the first two.  It disguises itself nicely under the cloak of spirituality!  When we use His Name without permission, we use it in vain.  How many times have believers said, "God told me," or "God spoke to me" to manipulate or control a situation?  Still, others use His Name to get what they want.  Saints, only use His Name when you get permission from the Throne.  Don't misquote the Lord!  Don't use His Name to support your selfish ambitions or to feed your self-centered desires.  Don't use His Name meaninglessly!

Finally, we take the Lord's Name in vain when we worship Him with our mouth, but do not honor Him with our hearts.  The Old Testament prophets repeatedly directed this indictment toward Israel.  Jesus quoted Isaiah 29:13 when He said, "The people honor Me with their lips, but their hearts are far away from Me; but in vain do they worship Me, teaching as doctrines the precepts of men" (Matthew 15:8-9)

The Lord is looking for heartfelt, true worshipers.  He wants us to put our hearts where our mouths are and vice versa.  Determine in your heart to sincerely honor the Lord's Name, both in conduct and word.  His Name is earth's most precious.  One song writer said, "He's the hope of earth and joy of heaven."  Don't you just love His Name?

When Were You Called to Preach?

I love talking about my "call to preach!"  Thanks for asking.

In retrospect, I see my call into the ministry as progressive.  Before I discuss my personal journey, let me remind you that all of us are called to salvation.  You are not a second class Christian if you have not been called into what people refer to as "the ministry."  Everyone, for that matter, has a ministry.

I can't ever remember not wanting to be a preacher.  In elementary school, my third grade teacher asked our class one day what we wanted to be when we grew up.  Of course, the answers were pretty standard: a fireman, a ball player, a police officer, a teacher, etc.  When it came to my turn, I proudly said, "I want to be a preacher!"  My teacher was shocked!

Guess what?  I didn't really know what preachers did, but I still had my heart set on becoming one!  Now I know it was the Holy Spirit nudging my heart.  At any rate, my focus remained on the church.  I fell in love with that little Assemblies of God church in Jefferson, Ohio.  One evening the pastor and his wife visited our home.  I was feeling quite dejected that evening, and when it came time for introductions, I hid in the corner.  Sister Strahsburg noticed that shy little boy in the corner, made her way to me, knelt down in front of me--face to face--and said, "My, what a handsome little boy you are!"  What she didn't know at the time was that kids at school that very day had called me "fat head" and really hurt my feelings.  She gently placed her hands on both sides of my head and just loved me.  Her smile and love melted my heart.  I ran to my bedroom, threw myself on my bed and cried and cried.  That night I determined to become a preacher!

Four or five years later, my pastor's wife took me to camp, where I was gloriously saved and called to preach!  The progressive calling on my life was birthed into reality on Tuesday, August 4, 1970!  I knew exactly what I was going to do with my life when I got up from that altar.  No doubts!  I was called to preach the gospel.

The call continued to intensify over the next few years, when in 1974 the Lord directed me to enroll at Evangel College (now University) in Springfield, Missouri.  I earned a double major in Mass Communications and Biblical Studies.  I guess my melancholy personality needed a back-up plan!  When I met Lori Owens and things got serious, she informed me that she would not marry me unless I was going into "the ministry."  Hallelujah!  I was able to quickly announce, "Of course, I've always wanted to be a preacher!"  The rest is history.

Now, five churches, four kids, six grandchildren, and 35 years later, I cannot thank God enough for calling me to preach earth's greatest message.  Sometimes I feel like Paul, "Woe is me if I preach not the gospel" (1 Corinthians 9:16).

I marvel at the grace and goodness of God when I think about Him calling that middle Loomis boy--the shy, backwards one, the most unlikely--to preach the gospel.  Not a day passes when I don't thank Him for His love and mercy.

What Do We Do When Our Dreams Die?

How do we handle it when our dreams die, especially the ones we thought were God-given?

This question has touched me deeply, because I'm grieving over the death of a dream in my own life.  Let me give you 12 examples of people in Scripture who experienced the death of their dreams.

1.  Joseph received 2 God-given dreams, then was cast into a pit, sold into slavery, served in Potiphar's house and ended up in prison (Genesis 37-50).

2.  Moses was commissioned by "I AM THAT I AM" to lead the children of Israel out of Egyptian bondage.  Later, he and his brother, Aaron, were rejected by the Israelites as situations went from bad to worse (Exodus 5).

3.  Moses sent out 12 men to spy out the Promised Land.  Only 2 came back with a positive report and the people wanted to stone them and cast Moses aside (Numbers 13-14).

4.  Samson, the prophet-playboy of Israel, was raised up to judge the people, but allowed his uncontrolled passions to alter his assignment (Judges 16).

5.  Saul, Israel's first king, began his reign with great promise and ended up falling on his own sword while fighting the Philistines (1 Samuel 15:22-23).

6.  David, Israel's king-to-be, found himself physically, spiritually and mentally exhausted after running from King Saul, only to learn that the Amalekites had taken captive his wife and children (1 Samuel 30:1-4).

7.  King David's heart was crushed after learning his best friend, Jonathan, had been killed in battle (2 Samuel 1).

8.  God put it in the heart of David to bring the ark of God to its resting place in Jerusalem.  David's plan was foiled when Uzzah, the priest, was struck dead after trying to steady the ox cart which carried the ark (2 Samuel 6).

9.  David made plans to build the temple, but was refused by God because he had been a man of war and the cause of much bloodshed in Israel (1 Chronicles 22:8).

10.  David's one-night-stand with Bathsheba, their unplanned pregnancy, Uriah's murder, and their baby's subsequent death caused the monarch much grief throughout the remaining years of his life (2 Samuel 12).

11.  Israel's exiles listened to the promises of false prophets regarding their future (Jeremiah 29).

12.  Stephen, the newly-selected deacon, a man full of the Holy Spirit and wisdom and one whose life exhibited great potential in the infant Church, was stoned (Acts 6).

All of us have experienced the death of a dream.  During these times, we either get bitter or better.  Sometimes we never fully understand the "why's" of God, but the above examples of dreams that died perhaps give us insights that may help us deal with our own losses.

1.  Joseph's dreams died temporarily, only to be resurrected thirteen years after he was thrown into the pit.  Remember, timing is everything when it comes to God's plan for our lives.

2.  It looked like Moses' dream to lead the children of Israel died, but really God was testing his obedience and trust in the face of overwhelming circumstances.

3.  Regarding the twelve spies, sometimes our dreams die at the hands of those around us.  When the inequities of life steal our dreams, we have to lay them at the feet of an all-loving, all-knowing God, who eventually evens the score.

4.  Ask Samson.  Some dreams die because we allow sin and the lust of our flesh to override God's plan.

5.  King Saul saw his dream die because he allowed jealousy, rage and bitterness to control his life.  Sin is a dream-killer.

6.  When David discovered his wife and kids had been taken captive by the Amalekites, he "cried until he could cry no more."  Sometimes God allows our dream to die so that we "come to the end of ourselves" and trust Him completely.

7.  David learned that precious Jonathan had died.  His soul was crushed.  We make one of two choices when life dashes our dreams and breaks our heart:  (1) to either fall upon the Rock and find mercy, or (2) to blame God, become bitter and allow circumstances to crush us.

8.  Some dreams die when God tests our motivations behind our actions.  We have to live our lives in keeping with God's revealed will.

9.  David wanted to build the Temple in Jerusalem.  Sometimes our dreams die because they are not OUR dreams!  God has assigned what we thought was our dream to someone else!

10. David and Bathsheba lost their baby.  God did not punish the baby, but sin brings terrible consequences to our choices.

11. Israel rejected the prophetic voice of Jeremiah and chose to listen to false prophets.  Sometimes our dreams die when we listen to the wrong voices.

12. Stephen's future ministry looked promising, but he was martyred.  Sometimes our dreams die because God has a much larger purpose in mind for us.  Stephen's death caused the early disciples of Jesus to spread out all over the Roman Empire, thus taking the Gospel to people and lands that Stephen could not go to by himself.  

Have you experienced the death of a dream?  Let me encourage you to do what David did when he lost his baby and when his wife and children were captured by the Amalekites:  WORSHIP GOD -- the highest form of faith when things go from bad to worse!

Do You Have a Favorite Bible Character?

Actually, I have three favorite Bible characters--the "Three J's!"

First, I want to see Jesus!  I have personally known Him for over 42 years.  I celebrated my 42nd spiritual re-birth (birthday) on August 4, 2012.  Like you, I'm not sure what I will do when I see Him face to face.  Will I weep?  Will I fall down at His feet and worship Him?  Will I be speechless?  It really doesn't matter.  I just want to see Him!  I've always loved the words to this old chorus:

"It will be worth it all,

When we see Jesus.

Life's trials will seem so small,

When we see Christ.

One glimpse of His dear face,

All sorrow will erase.

So bravely run your race,

'til you see Christ."

This wonderful Jesus changed my life so dramatically, and the older I get, the more precious He becomes!

Second, I want to talk with Joseph.  The boy dreamer faced obstacles on his course that would have sidelined most.  He met with unfair circumstances, false accusations, lonely days, and much rejection.  However, his defining moment was positive and wonderful.  It's found in Genesis 50:20, "As for you (his brothers), you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, in order to bring about this present result to preserve many people alive."  I appreciate Joseph's resolve to remain on the high road of life.  Many would succumb to bitterness for lesser reasons.  He's one of my heroes!

When we meet, I want to ask Joseph for more details about the pit, Potiphar's house, the prison, and finally, his years in the palace of Pharaoh.  By the way, Joseph is a "type" of Jesus in the Old Testament.  There are many parallels to their earthly lives.

Third, when I get to heaven I want to hang out with Jonathan for at least one-thousand years!  As you remember, Jonathan was King Saul's son--heir apparent to the throne of Israel.  His most notable attribute was his selflessness.  He surely must have suspected that David would be God's next choice for the throne, but he still loved him like a brother.  When I read 1 Samuel 18:1-4, I glean insights into his character--insights that I admire and relish for my own life.

"Now it came about when he had finished speaking to Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as himself.  Saul took him that day and did not let him return to his father's house.  Then Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself. Jonathan stripped himself of he robe that was on him and gave it to David, with his armor, including his sword and his bow and his belt."

Verse 4 says it all:  "Jonathan stripped himself..."  Naturally, his robe was the robe worn by a prince.  When he gave his robe to David, he gave away not only his title, but his influence!  What a selfless act!

He also gave away his armor, including his sword, bow and belt.  These items were instruments of war, and in giving them to David, Jonathan further revealed his inner character.

In ancient Israel military life, the sword represented the soldier's key weapon of protection.  In essence, Jonathan was saying, "I'll do anything and everything to protect you.  You're my brother!"  Later, he would prove his commitment when his own father, King Saul, tried to kill David.  The soldier's bow spoke of his inner and physical strength.  Jonathan spent the rest of his life supporting David's dreams and doing everything he could to see that David reached his intended goals!

The soldier's belt of course, held fast his undergarment.  Not only was a tightly-worn garment imperative in battle, but it also protected a man's dignity.  Time and again, Jonathan stood up to his angry King-father on David's behalf.  He stayed true to his father, but felt compelled to subtly override Saul's relentless attacks on David's character and motivations.  To summarize, in giving  David his robe and armor, Jonathan demonstrated "what's mine is yours."

Jonathan was a man's man--a true man of God.  He beautifully portrayed true friendship with David.  Most men today don't know how to have true male friends.  Usually, competitive mindsets, controlling attitudes, selfishness, frail egos and disloyalty prohibit most men from becoming and remaining life-long friends like David and Jonathan.  I'm looking forward to hearing from Jonathan more details about his and David's friendship.