The first thought that comes to mind is "adultery." Jesus tells us in Matthew 5:28, "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
God's holy and non-negotiable plan is that husbands and wives enjoy physical intimacy within the boundaries of monogamy. It does not matter if your husband is referring to audio-visual porn or smut magazines; it's all the same--adultery. When married men focus their attention and sexual energies outside their marriage partner, they commit adultery.
If I were this wife, I would feel totally violated. Such a request constitutes a breach of trust. Marriage is a covenant between a man and his wife, and God will judge those who practice such lifestyles (1 Corinthians 6:9).
This request has absolutely nothing to do with submission. It is ungodly, unholy and UNACCEPTABLE! The Law of Higher Principle guides this comment. Consider Peter's words in Acts 5:27-29 when the disciples were asked to stop preaching the gospel in Jerusalem.
Peter's resolve illustrates the Law of Higher Principle: "When they had brought them, they stood them before the Council. The high priest questioned them, saying, 'We gave you strict orders not to continue teaching in this name, and yet, you have filled Jerusalem with your teaching, and intend to bring this man's blood upon us.' But Peter and the apostles answered, 'We must obey God rather than men.'"
There are times when we have to override men's devices and do what's right in God's eyes. Your husband has no right to ask you to violate your conscience before God. He may become offended and even upset, but it doesn't matter. Porn would, in this case, become "the other woman."
Frankly, I'm appalled at such a request. What kind of husband, Christian or not, would ask such a despicable thing of his wife? A wife needs to know that her husband has eyes and desire ONLY toward her. I know I've come across rather harshly, but the very thought of such a request hurts my spirit.
